Boy and girl meet. Boy falls in love. Girl thinks she could like him. Couple months later she realises that his shy personality, over attentiveness and general likeness for her equal no swag!
Take my friend Keisha for example, she met this guy let’s call him Daniel at a bar in London, the two hit it off immediately. Things quickly progressed as they do and it went from hand holding at movies to tonsil hockey in her bedroom. After about 3 weeks of this ‘whirlwind’ romance Keisha starts to get bored, she realises that her and D just don’t click like she thought, the conversations seem to be getting shorter and more basic every day. But Daniel doesn’t see this. As far as he’s concerned things are going great and he’s one date short of asking her to be his girlfriend. (tell me about it, boys can be so clueless).
Confused and a little unsure what to do she calls up her besties. (as girls love to talk) After hours of evaluation they decide there are 2 options. End it or go with the flow. Why would she continue it you may wonder, she’s already bored out of her mind by this dude and they haven’t even hit one month yet, but he’s sweet and sensitive and always remembers to call to say goodnight!
So why stay.. FEAR. Yes fear, that one day she’d be lying in bed heartbroken yet again because she chose the douche with more ‘je nais se quoi’ wishing she hadn’t let go of the ‘good guy’ in her life that was willing to do whatever it took to be with her. But let’s face it, most girls would rather go through a tumultuous relationship with spontaneous Sergio, always the life of the party than stay cuddled up in bed with Dulling Dan. So she decides to end it. Now another dilemma, HOW?
Most girls I know would say nothing, generally trying to drop the occasional hint; replying texts a day late, missing phone calls, avoiding one-on-one hang outs.. you agree right? WELL STOP! Yes yes I know, most of the guys we know have proven themselves to in one way or another be tools, certified punks! Girls have been left confused and heart broken in the trail of destruction by ‘bad boys’ but there are also the few, emphasis on the word FEW boys who are actually genuinely sensitive, kind and emotional, their hearts get broken too but to show it would be to emasculating! Fair enough, these boys are few and far between but there’s the saying; “Behind every bad boy is the girl he loved too much that made him that way.”
My thoughts? A nice clean break. Sit down together somewhere or if that’s too hard a phone call might do, explain to him why things can’t be as he sees them. It’s hard for both parties but it needs to be done. Then move on, after all your still a single girl ready to mingle with the next cute guy that catches your eye. Just make sure your not breaking too many hearts along the way ;)
